What Can My Spouse and I Do to Help Our Children After Divorce?

Posted By Eiges & Orgel, PLLC || 8-Sep-2015

Divorce can be difficult for an entire family, not just the two spouses. Inevitably, shared children suffer feelings of confusion, sadness, frustration, and much more after they have witnessed their parents’ separation. For this reason, it is important that divorcing parents consider the wellbeing and security of their children.

To begin, it is important that you and your spouse explain the approaching situation in a calm and collected manner. Clarify that the separation is not their fault, but is a decision that may help the entire family. In addition, divorcing parents should explain to children that they will still be able to see both parents (if possible). This will ensure that your children do not feel abandoned or frightened about the upcoming event.

It is crucial that you and your spouse remain composed in front of the children. While you should be honest with them about the situation, you should not argue in front of them. This will only cause confusion. In some cases, it is beneficial to seek emotional support for your children before, during, and after the process.

Should My Children Receive Counseling or Therapy After the Divorce?

Studies show that there are several signs parents can look out for to identify a child’s serious need for therapy. These symptoms are listed below.

  • Extreme difficulties sleeping
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Worsened school performance
  • Reduction in self-esteem
  • Disinterest in friendships with others in the same age group
  • Extreme fatigue
  • New and unusual habits
  • Signs of separation anxiety
  • Heavy drinking
  • Drug usage
  • Excessive weight gain/loss
  • Aggressive behaviors
  • Preoccupation with death
  • Self-abuse

While divorce will be a part of your children’s lives forever, it does not have to be a negative part of their development.

Eiges & Orgel, PLLC Cares About Your Family

The New York divorce attorneys at Eiges & Orgel, PLLC understand the hardships that may come with divorce. We know that at this time, yours and your family’s futures will change tremendously. That is why we are here. When you choose to work with our team, you can rest easy knowing that our team is working hard to make sure you and your children are looked out for through the entire case. We can do everything in our power to make the process as smooth as possible.

If you are contemplating divorce, get in touch with a New York divorce lawyer from Eiges & Orgel, PLLC today. We have been helping clients through family-related legal matters for over 35 years.

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