You might think that communication (or lack thereof) is one of the most
common reasons for divorce in the United States. A recent study shows
that faulty communication may be just a symptom of another issue. In fact,
experts identified a slew of divorce causes that weren't related to
communication at all.
Three of the most common causes were:
It's true, marriage can fulfill the basic need for companionship. But
some marriages don't. In fact,
loneliness is a common reason for divorce. Couples who marry to cure this can feel
disappointed because marriage doesn't always fix the problem. In a
recent article, a clinical psychologist and blogger said that, "Marriage
is intended to be a place where two humans share the experience of loneliness."
This doesn't mean that partners should feel isolated, but it is important
to remember that togetherness doesn't always happen.
children can make a marriage stronger, studies show that parenting can lead to
divorce. According to experts, this happens when one or both parents prioritize
their children over their spouse. The result? Misplaced priorities and
tension between parents, especially once the children leave the home.
Situations like this are a major contributor the grey divorce; the growing
occurrence of divorce in couples over 50 years old. Differences in parenting
style can lead to serious marital tension as well.
The final – and possibly most surprising – reason for divorce
is change. Not change in circumstances, but of character. Many people
marry someone that they like. This is reasonable, but it's not the
foundation for a lasting marriage relationship.
People change, and with that change comes the possibility of divorce. Change can make
marriages stronger, but can also damage them if status quo holds the relationship together.
If you are considering a divorce,
speak with an attorney from Eiges & Orgel, PLLC today.